Deepening Your Already Wonderful Connection
People often think about couples therapy as something to do when your relationship is in trouble. But the truth is that couples therapy can be a wonderful, meaningful experience for couples whose relationships are already strong. You may not even have a clear target for what you want to work on or improve—but just the shared desire to deepen your connection, find ways of feeling more in tune with each other more of the time, more in touch, to experience your love and your life together in new, deeper, satisfying ways.
Every relationship has difficulties. And couples therapy can help you navigate these, and to develop the strength and agility in your relationship to get through others that emerge.
But many relationships also often have strengths—ways in which you come through for each other, understand each other deeply, ways in which you love and feel love. Couples therapy can also be about these strengths—about leaning into them, experiencing them more profoundly, and traversing into new territories together—new experiences in life as well as sharing more of yourselves with each other and feeling safe and joyful in sharing your inner worlds. This is an unfolding and deepening of the connection you already feel.
People often think of couples therapy as a painful process, focusing on getting through conflict. And it’s true that therapy can support you to get through conflict and distance and find your way back to each other. But couples therapy can also be a joyful experience, which supports you to feel and trust your love and connection, and to explore this loving space between you, a space which can feel light and playful, as well as solemn and calm.
Life is busy and exerts many demands on all of us. Work, kids, friendships, as well as all manner of less meaningful distractions, pull in their varied ways. Your relationship with your partner may be the most important relationship in your life. You may love each other profoundly, and already be good at finding your way through conflicts when they come up. But in the busyness of life, couples therapy can be a protected space in which you can return to each other and support the loving, always unfolding, deepening process of who you are together, who you want to be together, where you want to go together emotionally and in the world.
The way I work is tailored to your exquisite uniqueness as a couple. Therapy is a process we traverse according to who you are as people and who you are together, supporting you in the ways that you want and need, including enjoying and deepening what you already have together.
If you are interested in couples therapy as a way of deepening your already strong connection, I invite you to give me a call at (510) 500-9722 so that we can talk about how couples therapy can help.